Gayla and Her Family
I’m a wife to one great guy, mom and stepmom to five children I love dearly, and owner of a beautiful— but obnoxious—cat, Trixie. My husband, Randy, and I have been married more than twenty years with kids ranging from 18-34 years old in a “his, hers, and ours” family.
Our early years of marriage were difficult and blending our children didn’t come easily. Still wounded from a messy divorce, I struggled to embrace my new stepmom role.
In time, Randy and I learned how to parent together and form a united team with our stepparenting efforts. We gained the respect of our stepchildren and began to accept each of them unconditionally. Slowly, our relationships grew and stretched in understanding and love for one another.
I’m passionate about helping other stepfamilies create harmony in their relationships because of the bumpy road we’ve traveled. I understand the difficulties of stepfamily life—loyalty conflicts, birth order changes, rebellious stepchildren, holiday strife, competing schedules, financial struggles, and difficult ex-spouses, to name a few. I have a master’s degree in Psychology and Counseling and have been helping stepfamilies for more than a decade.
My new book, Stepparenting with Grace: A Devotional for Blended Families, released by Worthy Publishing, is now available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. I’ve also co-authored a stepmom devotional, Quiet Moments for the Stepmom Soul and holiday e-book, Unwrapping the Gift of Stepfamily Peace, both available on Amazon. I’m also a monthly columnist for blended families in Lifeway’s Parenting Teens publication.
I’ve recently joined Family Life Blended, a ministry of FamilyLife, to pursue God’s calling and continue my ministry with blended families. Check out our events, podcasts, and other ministry help at FamilyLife Blended.
Please sign up for my mailing list to stay informed of upcoming resources and stepfamily announcements. Call for a free consultation if you want to explore stepfamily coaching and check out my blog to find encouraging posts that will empower you on your stepfamily journey.