As stepparents, we often feel defeated in our circumstances. We play out our role the best we can, but it doesn’t seem good enough.
We beat ourselves up for the discord in our home.
We allow Satan to bombard our minds with negativity.
We convince ourselves that, as stepparents, it’s all our fault when our stepchildren don’t love (or even like) us.
Perhaps we do contribute to the strife. The role of a stepparent is hard.
We don’t always get it right. But we can’t wallow in our mistakes. God offers grace to try again.
We don’t deserve the grace God offers us—nor can we earn it—but He wants us to receive it anyway.
Ephesians 2:8–9 says: “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast.”
We find examples of grace throughout the Old and the New Testament.
Adam and Eve deserved eternal separation from God after disobeying His commands but experienced God’s grace instead.
King David committed adultery and murder yet earned the label of a “man after God’s own heart.”
Peter denied Jesus three times but experienced grace and redemption afterward.
God showed me the beauty of His grace years ago in a way I’ll always cherish. Married for eleven years with two young girls, I chose to walk away from my vows. Addiction had overtaken our home despite the recovery efforts of my then-husband. Following my divorce, I experienced feelings of defeat, failure, and guilt. My Christian beliefs and parents’ long-term marriage had taught me that marriage was forever. How could I go down the road of divorce? Yet I did.
I never saw God’s grace more clearly, however, than when He brought a new husband into my life with the last name of Grace. Randy graciously accepted my daughters as part of the package when we joined families with Randy’s two kids. Humbled, and forever thankful, my last name is a constant reminder of what God offers His children.
Grace. Second chances. New beginnings. An opportunity for a better ending.
Where have you experienced God’s grace in your stepfamily?
Will you share it with us in the comments?