I learned of another stepmom this week who called it quits on her family. Married less than a year, the challenges of blending her kids with her husband’s were too much. She chose to return to the single parenting life instead of plodding through the wilderness until the light of hope appeared.
It burdens me to hear of step-couples who give up in the early years of marriage. I believe God’s perfect plan for marriage is that one man and one woman marry and raise their children together. When we choose a different path (divorce, children out of wedlock, re-marriage with stepchildren, etc.), marriage gets harder.
That doesn’t mean God won’t bless our blended family relationships, but it does mean we have to give more than 100% to make it work.
When we quit, our children lose. Children can’t learn what a healthy marriage looks like in a single parenting home. Children don’t learn how to manage conflict when we run away from it. Children won’t learn what perseverance feels like if we quit.
A friend in my Bible Study Fellowship group told me her husband accepted the Lord this past week and will be baptized on Easter Sunday. She could barely contain her excitement. For 37 years of marriage, she’d prayed for him to become a Christian. She admitted there were times she wanted to give up. But instead she’s blessed with a miracle after almost four decades.
It’s always too early to quit. God can heal relationships that appear irrepairable. He can offer hope when it looks hopeless. But we have to give Him the opportunity, and trust His time frame when it looks different than ours.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11).
Will you look to the Lord for hope on days you want to quit?