“Dad, we’ve been in a wreck. We’re not hurt but my car is pretty messed up.” My stepson, Payton, relayed the disturbing news Friday night after he and two of his buddies were involved in a car wreck that totalled his car. Physically he wasn’t hurt, but emotionally he was destroyed.
It was the final straw for Payon in a series of events that left him feeling hopeless. Recently robbed at gunpoint in his apartment, struggling in a financial management class that could jeopardize his academic scholarship, managing an unsatisfactory work schedule with a less-than-understanding boss, and now coping with the anguish of an auto accident that destroyed his car. He sat at our kitchen table with tears in his eyes, his head in his hands saying, “What do I do?”
We’ve all had those days. Times of complete failure and absolute hopelessness. Days when it seemed our stepfamily relationships would never get better, even though we were doing all we knew to do. Periods of outright despair.
Maybe that’s where you are today. Perhaps you’re tired of the struggle and ready to call it quits on your family. I urge you – don’t give up. As we shared with Payton, let go and let God. He can work a miracle if you trust Him.
In Courage to Change, Al-Anon Family Groups offers good advice on the AA slogan, Let Go and Let God. “The more tightly I clutch my problems to my mind, the less opportunity I give God to help me work them out. God’s help is always available; all we have to do it to make room for Him to take part in our lives and keep ourselves ready to accept His guidance.”
When we let go and let God, we give up control of the problem and ask for His help in the solution. We admit our powerlessness over the situation and surrender our will to His will.
It takes a concious effort on our part. It requires risk … but offers freedom.
“Come near to God and He will come near to you.” (James 4:8)
Do you need to let go and let God? Will you share the result of past experience with surrending to His will in your stepfamily?