Our family enjoyed a long Easter week-end with four of our five children home. As I watched our kids interact, I couldn’t help but reminisce of times past when we encountered constant bickering and conflict among them. But now, with four of our children in their young adult years and only one child at home, the relationships have matured and grown beyond what I could have ever expected.
In the Easter picture of the kids, it’s interesting to take note of how they arranged themselves. My two biological daughters are on each end with my stepdaughter in the middle. In early pictures of our family, my bio children always stayed close to each other and stood side by side. But as years have changed their relationsips, they easily assume positions next to their step-siblings.
I would love to give easy, pat answers on how to mold relationships in blended families. But there are no easy answers.
It requires time, perseverance, and unending prayer. It requires constant nurturing of your marriage. It requires going the extra mile when you don’t feel like it. It requires sacrificing some of your needs and wants for the sake of others.
But I can tell you from experience, the rewards are worth the effort.
I know there are days you want to quit. I’ve been there. Especially during the early years of our marriage, I remember thinking that single parenting was easier than trying to blend our family. If my first divorce hadn’t been so painful, I would have probably walked out. But after 16 years as a stepparent, I’m thankful I didn’t give up.
I’m also thankful that step-relationships change as time passes. It’s worth investing your time.
How have your relationships changed? Will you share it with us?
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9