I recently went to lunch at a friend’s house who lives outside the city. I had never been to her house and since I’m directionally challenged, I got lost (it happens frequently, unfortunately). Since I recognize my lack of common sense with directions, I carry a Garmin with me. Once I plugged the address into my handy GPS, I was able to find her house without a problem, despite my detour.
Stepfamilies often take detours down roads they’ve never seen before. Wouldn’t it be nice to have a GPS that gives us clear directions every time on which path to take? Unfortunately, it’s not that easy. But we can decide we don’t want to stay stuck on the detoured road and take the necessary steps to find our way to the right path.
For instance, our family took a detour down the custody battle road many years ago after my stepchildren lost their mother. It was a difficult road that we had never been on before and had no idea which direction to go. So, we sought professional help through legal counsel.
We considered the choices we were presented and weighed our options. We prayed about the right direction for our family. And then we made a decision that began to take us off the detoured road and back to the right path. We went down several roads with twists and turns before arriving at our destination, but we finally reached a successful end to the journey.
Some detours, such as our custody battle, take years to resolve. They don’t have neatly wrapped, black and white answers. But we don’t have to allow the enormity of the situation to overwhelm us and stagnate us on the detour.
If we keep moving forward with the next step we believe we are to make, we will find our way to a route with better scenery. We don’t have to stay stuck in the detour. But if will require intentional effort on our part.
Where are you on your stepfamily journey? Are you stuck in a detour? What steps to you need to take toward your destination?